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Why does the son of a Hindu Brahmin fast during the Muslim month of Ramadhaan?

God consciousness through self-restraint

God consciousness through self-restraint

Earlier this week I completed 30 days of fasting during the 9th month of the Muslim calendar, Ramadhaan. The response I get when I tell someone “My parents are Hindu Brahmins but I fast during the month of Ramadhaan” ranges from disbelief to quizzical to puzzlement to scorn to amazement to annoyance. The exact response tells me a lot about the person, much like the adage – if you want to know the character of a man, observe how he treats those who can do nothing for him.

I am the elder son of religious but liberal Hindu Brahmin parents and realize that my fasting during the month that Muslims around the world fast is unusual. For those who know of the religious and political undercurrents and tension in the history of the sub-continent, this is definitely puzzling.

It’s not just a fad
I have fasted for the entire 30 days of Ramadhaan every year for the last 23 years. I happen to be quite the typical food loving Bengali, so fasting with no food or water between sunrise and sunset is never a piece of cake [sic]. And, over the years my response to “why do you fast?” hasn’t changed much. I get asked this question by people of all backgrounds, including Muslims.

Intrigue and curiosity
It started off with intrigue and a desire to satisfy my curiosity observing a Malay Muslim friend at the University of Cambridge where I read Engineering and Management Studies. That specific month, around March 1993, was meant to be just experiential – after all what is university campus life for if not for experimenting? But that first month of fasting while preparing for the final year exams ended up being an experience that I know changed the way I approached a lot of things in life.

Secondary benefits
There are many physical and medical benefits of fasting – and these benefits accrue to anyone who fasts – Hindu, Muslim, Christian, Buddhist …atheist or agnostic. However, these physical benefits, for me, are only a useful byproduct of secondary importance.

The primary benefit
When I am asked for a single reason – it is very clear answer – because I enjoy the experience – one of God consciousness. If allowed to expand on it, I would add – gratitude to and praise for our creator – through the process of self-restraint and self-awareness. The appreciation for what we have is greatest when we cannot have it – for instance, good health or the sustenance for it. From that appreciation, if you are fortunate, comes greater empathy for those who are equally deserving in life but have less. For the two billion Muslims, fasting during this month is only a small fraction of the recommended duties. Prayer, control of negative emotions (e.g. anger), abstinence during sunlight hours from modes of pleasure (e.g. movies, sex) are all recommended as ways to benefit further from the month.

For most of the last 23 years my fasting has been a mostly private affair, as it probably should be.  Only those who have interacted with me regarding meals in this month have been aware. It struck me a few days ago that perhaps I should write and tell more people about why this son of a Hindu Brahmin fasts during the month of Ramadhaan. Hence this short note.

Puru

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Dr Purnendu Nath spends his waking hours focusing on helping individuals and organizations reach their goals, to make the world a better place. He speaks, writes and advises on topics such as finance, investment management, discipline, education, self-improvement, exercise, nutrition, health and fitness, leadership and parenting.

Discipline – The link between ordinary and exceptional

Exceptional performance through discipline

Exceptional performance through discipline

No two people are the same, not even twins (I should know, my wife is one of twins!). When posed with the same challenge, big or small, each of us tackles it differently. A large fraction of very successful individuals did not start out with an innate ability in the area of their success. Some interest followed by repeated progression in the field is what did it for them. The 10,000 hour rule has been bandied about a fair bit especially after the brilliant book, Outliers, by Malcolm Gladwell. Few people know that there are academics that actually study experts. I’ll say that again – there are experts who study what make experts experts! And, what they report is that rather than just do something for 10,000 hours, what makes one person improve more than another is how those 10,000 hours of practice are spent.

In our era of internet search engines, knowledge should never be a barrier to individual achievement. Just about everything that you need to know to become significantly better at anything you enjoy is out there at zero cost.  If so, then, what creates the distinction between one person’s improvement and another’s?

Leaving aside luck, or acts of God, the improvement comes solely from one overarching factor – discipline!

Given that improvement comes from practice, and practice in areas of weaknesses, it is discipline that forms the key ingredient to success.

Discipline - the link between ordinary and exceptional

Discipline – the link between ordinary and exceptional

Look around you.  Whenever you see that someone has outshone themselves, it is self-discipline that got them there. In any sphere of human endeavour, whether in business, sport, science or in creative fields like music and art too.  Those gifted artists who got frustrated and stopped because they weren’t getting anywhere quickly never made it.  The ones, even if without much talent to begin with, who had the self-discipline to stick with it often ended up with success.

“Without discipline, there’s no life at all”, said Katharine Hepburn a leading lady in Hollywood for more than 60 years!  She died in 2003, but the truth in what she said never will.

Puru

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Dr Purnendu Nath spends his waking hours focusing on helping individuals and organizations reach their goals, to make the world a better place. He speaks, writes and advises on topics such as finance, investment management, discipline, education, self-improvement, exercise, nutrition, health and fitness, leadership and parenting.